Compassionate Communication - Connecting from the Heart
Discover Compassionate Communication
"Words Are Windows, or They Are Walls"
~ Marshall B. Rosenberg
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) - also known as Compassionate Communication - is a body of concepts, practices and wisdom originated by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD (1934 – 2015) over a period of about 40 years, as he dedicated his life to understanding what separates us and connects us, what brings us to violence and what brings us to resolution and peaceful coexistence.
At the heart of Marshall's work lies the observation that the language we use, with others and with ourselves, is a powerful means that can either facilitate the emergence of our compassionate motivation, or inhibit it, creating distance and disconnection inside and outside of us.
On the other hand, language is something we can learn to "use" more wisely: it can become a tool that allows our compassionate nature to come forth. However, for that to happen, we need a new language map.
That's what NVC offers us: a map to connection and compassion, built around the understanding of 'human needs' as key to access our common humanity.
NVC teaches us that, when we identify, understand and connect to our universal human needs and values, rather than diagnosing and judging, we have a much greater ability to understand one another in a way that empowers us to resolve conflict without violence.
NVC helped me immensely on at least two levels:
On the one end, it helped me build a sense of self-connection that I didn't even think would be possible. Through awareness of needs, I learned to feel empowered to discern my motivations and design the life that I want, including changing my career completely, as well as develop more authentic and fulfilling relationships.
As well, it provided me with solid skills and maps to navigate conflict. Before NVC, I was extremely conflict-avoidant, and I would always tend to lose my ground in the face of intensity, triggers, different opinions. The result was that I would typically shut down and comply, but I would be resentful and hurting inside. NVC taught me that, while conflict is an inevitable part of life, it doesn't have to be painful, and certainly doesn't have to be violent. Through the skills taught by NVC, we can harness the life-serving energy of conflict to build better solutions that work for everyone involved. A real game-changer.
This is just a glimpse of what is possible thanks to this beautiful practice.
I started studying and practicing NVC in 2013 under the guidance of Thom Bond, founder and director of the New York Center for Nonviolent Communication (NYCNVC), and since then I have collected over 1000 hours of training, mentoring and teaching. As of today, I am a trainer, mentor and core staff member at NYCNVC.
Alongside with Thom Bond, my work has been strongly influenced by other amazing NVC trainers, including Robert Gonzales, Giovanna Castoldi, Gabi Vana just to name a few. And even more so, by the numerous participants and practitioners that share my passion for this life-changing work.
As of today, I teach introductory and advanced NVC courses through NYCNVC, and I'm available for individual and small-group mentoring or dialogue facilitation. I am also the founder and leader of Compassion Course Italia - the Italian chapter of the renown Compassion Course Online, written and facilitated by Thom Bond, serving over 100 countries in 16 languages. The course has reached over 25,000 people since 2011.